Friends and Fans, and How to Tell the Difference

I'm surviving but barely.  Work is a chore with which I would prefer not to be bothered. None of my superiors have complained yet. I try to smile at everyone and act as though all is peachy. I don't know if anyone is buying my act other than the children. They're just dumb little kids. They don't know if anything is wrong with me personally, nor do they give a rat's ass. For that matter, no one else gives a rat's ass, either. My mother keeps saying, "I told you nothing good would come of this."

As a word of caution, fans are fans. Friends are friends. The two terms are not interchangeable. It's possibly OK to occasionally flatter a fan by calling or referring to that person as a friend, but the reverse is not quite so acceptable. It's almost like calling one girlfriend by another girlfriend's name when you're maintaining dual relationships on the sly. That, too, has happened to me, so I know how that feels as well.

If a fan is a fan. Let it be. There are worse things in the world to be than fans. Bitches, hos, cunts, and a few other terms come to mind. Don't tell the person that she is your friend, and then call her a fan. It will hurt her feelings.

I don't do Facebook, so I am less affected by this, but at the same time, even if your fan/friend isn't on Facebook, don't lie about who is or isn't among your Facebook friends.  You don't really have to say anything at all about it. It's your business.It's your personal prerogative to have anyone you choose as a friend on your Facebook page even if you maintain separate public pages for fans and private pages for family and what you consider "old" friends. You owe no one any explanation. If, however, you go out on a limb and volunteer an explanation, and it ends up that at least part of what you said was a lie, it reflects poorly on your own character as well as hurts the feelings of the person to whom you lied. The person to whom you lied feels either that you considered her to be so incredibly stupid that you could say virtually anything to her and she would believe it or she is once again reminded that you lied to her when you told her she was your friend when, in actuality, she was nothing more than another fan.

Why you wasted any of your precious time on the person who was once a friend or fan is a mystery for the ages.

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