tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post8985817325896866883..comments2024-03-11T00:26:35.303-07:00Comments on The Many Banes of My Existence by Alexis: Mean Girls, Anorexis, Speech Impediments, and SensitivityAlexisARhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-54911039344490340422013-04-18T00:05:48.096-07:002013-04-18T00:05:48.096-07:00Glad you made it through the wedding and enjoyed i...Glad you made it through the wedding and enjoyed it. I can relate to your poor daughter. I made it to 90 lbs. for the first time in my life, only to get influenza and lose four pounds. Your daughter is probably taller than I (I'm almost 5'2" with hope of growing up to an inch according to my most recent bone scan) so she's probably even thinner than I am.<br /><br />While I think bullying is an eternaloffspring thing (I think even Jesus' apostles bullied one another, as did the Saducees and Pharisees) I think the current awareness is causing it to be on the downswing, and there seem to be social consequences now for parents who allow or even encourage their offspring to pick on those smaller, weaker, or otherwise more vulnerable.<br /><br />At my former high school, the varsity football coach, a family friend, has made it his personal mission to see that his players do not bully anyone, and he also expects them to step in when they see it happening with others. He's trying to get the cheer coach to join him in this, as some of the worst bullying is done by girls. It's more subtle and harder to catch. The other athletic coaches seem pretty much on board (a center sat out a boys' basketball playoff game for tripping an underclassman in the hallway). The girls' sports teams don't seem to have so much of an issue with bullying. It's not that it never happens, but it's relatively rare. The girls with th cheerleader/dance team mentality are a little more prone to such behaviors. The football coach as having a hard time getting both the cheer coach and the dance coach on board with his anti-bullying campaign. I don't know the dance coach, but I always saw the cheer coach as somewhat of a bully herself. Maybe that has something to do with her reluctance to take a stand against it. Perhaps the administration needs to have a little "shidebar" with her.<br /><br />Livinh well truly is the best form of revenge.AlexisARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-47218117901281445812013-04-15T19:42:43.176-07:002013-04-15T19:42:43.176-07:00We went to Bar Harbor once, but fortunately we wer...We went to Bar Harbor once, but fortunately we were in a rental car with a GPS so we did not need to ask anyone for directions.AlexisARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-19647278384853888232013-04-13T10:09:09.422-07:002013-04-13T10:09:09.422-07:00My Nana cannot pronounce /r/ to save her life. Bo...My Nana cannot pronounce /r/ to save her life. Both of my grandparents grew up in Maine where that end sound is basically unheard of, unless you are from out of town. Don't ever go to Maine and ask for directions to Bar Harbor, it's Ba Haba!<br />Becca Bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17403719165386951527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-68350348021834317822013-04-12T01:34:18.567-07:002013-04-12T01:34:18.567-07:00I feel so bad for those who stutter. Having a conv...I feel so bad for those who stutter. Having a conversation with a person suffering from such a disorder makes me a nervous wreck by the time the conversation is over, and it's certainly no fault of that person's. Who would do such a thing to oneself?AlexisARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-13944838876547211842013-04-11T06:56:43.591-07:002013-04-11T06:56:43.591-07:00My soon-to-be-Ex has a stutter, typically more pro...My soon-to-be-Ex has a stutter, typically more pronounced when he's upset. He is the oldest of 4 boys, and his youngest brother has a stutter. Though his brothers is much more pronounced, because he stutters quite a bit during a regular conversation.<br /><br />It's interesting what you wrote, "It can stem from neurological, emotional, or unknown causes." because I have a strong feeling both are from the emotional side of things...Faery Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06449195963458261640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-78985504060479173312013-04-11T06:50:09.809-07:002013-04-11T06:50:09.809-07:00I could really relate to this post on many levels;...I could really relate to this post on many levels; stuttering, anorexia and bullying. Thanks for sending it to me. <br /><br />My youngest had a severe form of clonic block stuttering as a very young child. She could barely get a sentence out. Through very intensive and very early intervention, ages 2 and 3, within a year it was completely gone and has never returned. It was heart wrenching to see her struggle those years. <br /><br />Due to her illness, she has lost 13 pounds the past few months bringing her to under 90 pounds at age 17. To say she is thin is an understatement. Luckily she has never been the brunt of any bullying .....luckily for the bully that is ..... this mama don't play. <br /><br />Everyone has had their crosses in life to bare and bullying is nothing new as your mom has pointed out. The only difference is that today, with the internet and social media, it has become much easier to be cruel in a cowardly way. It's a dangerous slope as no one ever knows how vulnerable their victim is or what drastic self harming measures they could take. <br /><br />Taking the high road and not lowering yourself into the "middle school" stupidity is quite admirable and says a lot about your character (and fear of your mom < love it) an attribute the bullies can never get back. I see the tide changing, just interviewed Lee Hirsch director of the Bully movie last week, I think we are seeing the trend of bullies being the losers and the ones with the most issues. <br /><br />Like the judge calling "Objection Shushtained" .... karma baby! Marianne Russohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18074976092300880974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-48414460251580446332013-04-11T05:25:11.667-07:002013-04-11T05:25:11.667-07:00Interesting post, Alexis. I am impressed by your ...Interesting post, Alexis. I am impressed by your knowledge of speech impediments. I guess everyone has something other people can use to pick on them. I have a cousin who, when we were growing up, was really mean to me. He stuttered a lot and, I think, had trouble with his r's. He grew up into a really handsome guy... I mean, other people think he looks like a male model. I don't see it, though, because even though we're cousins, he was always mean to me when we were growing up and I haven't forgotten it. I hold grudges.knottyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10127277724751832329noreply@blogger.com