tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post6616325877707326412..comments2024-03-11T00:26:35.303-07:00Comments on The Many Banes of My Existence by Alexis: My Family's Close Encounter With Child Protective Services, Part TwoAlexisARhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-26946045717123611832011-09-04T12:39:41.089-07:002011-09-04T12:39:41.089-07:00HAHAHA!!! How funny! It's good to have a pla...HAHAHA!!! How funny! It's good to have a plan, I'll have to figure out my stances on discipline quite soon. Probably I should have already if we're being honest.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115154893444857726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-69327109373075361752011-09-03T14:17:16.217-07:002011-09-03T14:17:16.217-07:00Amelia, the main reson my dad bribed me with money...Amelia, the main reson my dad bribed me with money on that particular occasion was that A) he couldn't very well threaten to beat me in the presence of cPS; and B) he knew, even if cPS wasn't there, that he couldn't smack a bottom that was pretty messed up with bruises from sitting on the beads. Mt dad's m.O. was threaten to whack whenever feasible; offer money at all other times. My mom was the opposite: bribe first, if that didn't work, then spank. Both used time outs on a daily basis as well. I spent as much time in their den as I spent in any other room of the house despite the fact that there was nothing in there for me.AlexisARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-20351205620514604422011-09-03T13:30:04.084-07:002011-09-03T13:30:04.084-07:00I'm glad everything worked out in the end, and...I'm glad everything worked out in the end, and you weren't too traumatized by having to undress in front of strangers. That wasn't very well thought out of them. <br />I love that your parents bribe you with money even at that age.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07115154893444857726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-12039550589025357342011-09-03T09:26:18.772-07:002011-09-03T09:26:18.772-07:00My mom says in some reslly obvious cases, CPS has ...My mom says in some reslly obvious cases, CPS has dropped the ball. They've questioned really little kids with suspicious injuries in front of their parents. Even in my case, if anyone in power really believed my parents inflicted those marks on me, I should've been questioned at school first without my parents' knowledge, and the school nurse probably should've been called to help me to feel comfottable with the level of body exposure that was required. If there had been anything to report about my parents, I would have been far more likely to disclose it if my parents didn't yet even know I was being questioned, and with the prence of another adult I trusted. In some cases with which my mom has been involved in reporting, a child has told of sexual abuse in situations when school personnel have suspected something strange with the child's envirenment for a very long time. Then later, when CPS gets around to questioning the child, it's often done so brusquely or callously that the kid gets scared and changes his or her story. Then CPS drops the case as though it's a hot potato. <br /><br />In a case where suspicions have existed for a considerable time, and the child has finally told an authority something that a physical examination would either confirm or deny, the physical exam should be done, even if the child needs to be sedated in order to make it happen or to minimize the trauma to the child. I can say this knowing how much I'd hate it if I were the kid involved, but rescuing someone may requre a level of discomfort.<br /><br />Both my parents are mandated reporters, but my mom has dealth with reporting abuse more than my dad has. My dad's repoting has generally happened when he was working ER shifts, and an injury to a child occurred that physical evidence suggests could not have happened the way the parent said it happened.<br /><br />My parents say that, while the school district personnel might have handled a few things differently, it was appropriate for them to have contacted CPS in my case. She thinks, had the CPS wrokers been a bit smarter, they should have asked me more specifid questions. Even successful passage if high school physics should have given the investigaors sufficient knowledge to confirm my story. A child without a father who majored in physics isn't necessarily the norm in CPS cases. My case may have been decided before a judge and jury, with a possible separation between my parents and me for months beofre the trial, if my parents' eudcational history had been more typical. <br /><br />My parents don't fault the school for making the report, and they fault the investigators on;y for being a bit clueless about a little girl's concern with nudity on front of strangers. A lot of other solutions existed besides one of the investigators restraining me while the other ripped my clothing off, which was the initial way they wanted to proceed. Had my dad not been there to offer another plan, my clothing would have been forcibly removed by strangers. <br /><br />My parents were also concerned about Sharon Seedwell. They thought that a ten-year-old girl hanfinf out in school restrooms, repeatedly climbing stall walls to view other students in various stages of undress was strange enough behavior to have raised a red flag or two. Even if school prsonnel didn't wish to report or investigate what was going on with her, they should gave, at the very least, done more to keep her her from terrorizing other little girls in the bathrooms.I wonder where Sharon Seedwell is know and what she is doing to occupy her spare time.<br /><br />My mom still says CPS in California is far more likely to fail to act when action is warranted than to overact in given situations. She says that in general, the account of the overly zealous CPS worker is a myth.AlexisARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09797016673203467911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485729541580426717.post-61730062247751438202011-09-03T08:13:52.118-07:002011-09-03T08:13:52.118-07:00I'm happy things worked out in your family'...I'm happy things worked out in your family's favor. It really is a shame that sometimes the wrong people get a full investigation, while others just get a knock at the door.Beccahttp://www.gigglingpearl.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com